To be 16 again

I had a conversation with my husband the other day and we talked about some of the most ridiculous things we’ve done throughout our teenage years. Everyone make silly mistakes right? I mean, I thought I knew it all back then and looking back on it now, “Yeah right Ati!” lol.

So, I wanted to write some things I would tell my teenage self today, if I could.

choose wise friends. you will find that most of your friends will do certain things. Things that may go against your standards and what you believe in..and just because your friends are doing it, doesn’t necessarily mean you have to do it too. Although choosing wise friends is key, but being smart is key also.

so what if you failed a paper? that’s life! you will either pass or fail. But that doesn’t mean it’s the end of the world. Make mistakes! that’s how you learn. Don’t be discouraged. Pick yourself up and try again.

don’t be so caught up with the things of the world. You know, the need to have the latest iphone, hair straightener, high heels or pair of jeans. You will find that when you get to my age, those things won’t even matter. And plus, you won’t even fit those pair of jeans anyways LOL

– don’t stress about your weight. I know you may think your fat now. Oh trust me! you should see yourself now. Your morbidly obese lol..so learn to love your body and enjoy it before babies come along.

when you get to university, pick ONE subject and stick with it. You will find that you wasted a lot of time deciding on what you wanted to study. And because of this, you’ve created unnecessary stress for yourself. So be prepared and be wise with your time.

learn to budget your money. Again, don’t use your money to keep up with the latest trends. You will find later in life, that the amount of money you spent on shoes, clothes and makeup would’ve came in handy to buy nappies lol..I mean, do you have any idea how expensive those things are? so start saving now and use your money wisely.

learn to say NO. I know your’e a sensitive person and you don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings but trust me, some things you just have to harden up and say no. Because at the end of the day, everything else will be fine and you will be the one suffering. So save yourself the drama and learn today.

don’t be so quick to date! trust me when I say, you will have all the time in the world to date. Most guys are jerks and you will come to the realisation that, your prince charming; the one who will love you for you and make you happy will come later in life. So, be patient.

don’t be crushing on celebrities because I’m telling you now, it’s a complete waste of time lol..I mean, they don’t even know you exist..I know your friends will have one particular celebrity they admire and what not..but c’mon now! Is Chris Brown gonna take you to the temple? Uhhhh, I don’t think so! So, don’t invest your time on unnecessary things.

appreciate the little things. You will find that the best things in life are for free. You will realise that you don’t need expensive things to make you happy but rather the small and simple things you wouldn’t even think it’l make a difference. So take advantage!

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My battle with breastfeeding: The Highs and Lows

Before I begin with this post, I just want to say that; what I am about to share, does not necessarily make me a ‘pro’ breastfeeder or perhaps claim that I am better than anyone at breastfeeding or say that “you are doing it wrong!” kinda thing. What I am about to share is solely based on my own experience and hopefully this post will shed some light on some mothers who are struggling with breastfeeding or perhaps consider breastfeeding her child.

So thinking back on my pregnancy, I always knew from the ‘get go’ that I wanted to breastfeed my baby no matter what. Growing up, I’ve always known that breastfeeding was the best thing you could ever give your child and I never really understood why mothers would choose otherwise. However, given various circumstances and situations, some mothers just cannot breastfeed. No matter how hard they try, they just can’t and that’s it.

Given my situation, I was very fortunate enough that as soon as Lyca was born she latched on pretty well and away she went! She knew exactly what she was doing and thank goodness for that!! because I literally had no clue lol. So not only did she make things a lot easier for me, I knew I was very lucky because I knew some mothers weren’t as lucky as myself.

So why did I do it? Why am I breastfeeding? The answer is simple. “I wanted the best for my baby”. The thought of formula feeding was very unnatural to me. I mean, the word ‘formula’ on its own; sounded like some kind of weird, scary, scientific experiment. So to even begin to think about what goes in that tin of powdered milk, and how it was made, scared the heck outta me. So that was the main reason why I chose to breastfeed my baby.

However, having said that; not everything was smooth and peachy. In fact, it was one of the most difficult task I had ever come across. The pain of breastfeeding was so excruciating and that was something I was not prepared for. I briefly talked about it on my ‘Postnatal Blues’ post here. I’m not gonna lie, at some point I was on the verge of giving up and slowly giving in to the idea of formula feeding. But I knew if I was to put my baby on formula, I was only thinking about myself which was really selfish of me. I came to the realisation that its not about me anymore but rather a little human being who’s life has become so dependent on me, and I can’t just let her down because I was experiencing some pain. I knew I had to be strong. I knew I had to overcome this. I knew I had to really endure to the end, in order for my baby to have the best.

So what did I do with the pain? I kept on breastfeeding! As crazy and painful as that sounds, I really had no choice but to soldier on with the pain and continue to feed my baby. I know it sounds easier said than done on here, but trust me when I say, the pain was so torturous and I think some mothers out there can relate to the same thing. In my head I was thinking, “Geez how much more pain does a woman need to go through?!” I mean, isn’t childbirth enough? Apparently not. lol

Then, there was the whole breastfeeding in public thing. I’ve come across so much drama online and on the media about breastfeeding and it made me sad to see how society views breastfeeding in public as ‘inappropriate’, ‘disgusting’ oh even worse- “go breastfeed your baby in the restroom”..I mean c’mon now! Would you take your food and eat in the restroom? I don’t think so. Same principle applies here. I am not saying that all society think this way, but i know others beg to differ. And of course at the end of the day, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I haven’t experienced anything like this but if it was to happen, then now you know where my thoughts lie lol. What I’m trying to say is, if your baby is crying because he/she is hungry, don’t feel like you have to hide or don’t be afraid of what others might think or say. When your baby is hungry, they will demand for a feed right then and there and they wouldn’t care where you are at the time. And you shouldn’t be either.

I’m glad to say that breastfeeding eventually did get a lot easier for me. I only experienced pain for just 2 weeks. I know, 2 weeks felt like 2 years at the time! lol- but that pain only lasted for a short period of time. Now, I enjoy nursing my baby and having that special bond that only you can experience with your baby through breastfeeding.

If it’s one thing I learned from breastfeeding is, establishing a good latching position, and I think this is key. What I had thought at the time was a good position, turned out to be the complete opposite; and that is when it went all down hill for me lol.

Breastfeeding is one of the most beautiful and natural experience a woman can have. And if it be done properly, it can be such an enjoyable experience.

To all my dear mothers, nothing can ever compare or comprehend to the sacred role we hold as a mother. It is our divine duty given to us and although it comes with a lot of pain and heartache, the joy of seeing your baby grow and knowing that you tried to give them the best, is rewarding on it’s own. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Give yourself credit for all that you’ve done because you deserve it and so much more.

Ati xx

Work with what you have..

So this is how our morning went..

Our usual routine went from a feed to a bath and then a photoshoot lol..yes, I know crazy new mother syndrome..haha

My sweet girl was very good to me and lasted throughout our mini photoshoot sesh. Thank you to my sweet sweet handsome husband for buying my two favourite toys at the moment-  of which I will post a pic of it real soon.

Due to this ridiculous weather, we couldn’t go outdoors or go somewhere fancy to take our photos. So I had to work with what I had and make it happen. Bear in mind that I am no professional photographer nor I claim to be one, sooooo be nice! lol..these pictures were just for fun and of course trying out my new toy!

So enjoy xx

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My two fave things. Thanks babe!

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So of course, I didn’t have ANY fancy props to work with. I don’t know if you can tell from the pictures; but we took our pictures on our bed in our bedroom lol. I used our headboard as a backdrop and it turned out alright.

I used different headbands on her so the pictures don’t look too plain. Also, the butterflies I ordered online a while ago to decorate the walls and these are the ones that decided to fall off lol- So I included them in the pictures.

And the background of the picture is just our white blanket and some pillows to help with levelling lol- and voila! you got yourself some good looking pictures lol.

You don’t have to go to such extreme or buy expensive items for a photoshoot. Just work with what you have and you will be surprised with the outcome!

Ati xx